My first semester of college was nothing like I had imagined. For most of my life, I had pictured myself reading literature on a lush quad in a quaint New England town—a la Rory in Gilmore Girls—and when I finally arrived, I realized that what I thought I wanted was actually completely wrong. After lots of tears and even more phone calls to my mom, I began my great scramble to transfer schools. Thankfully, I realized my mistake early enough to get to transfer to Boston University in January, just in time for recruitment.
For five months I had struggled to find friends, to quell my homesickness, and to feel like the version of myself I had come to know over the past eighteen years. When I walked into the Delta Gamma party on the first night of recruitment, I knew I had found the answer. Every woman I spoke to was poised, passionate, and personable. As I met each one, I heard myself starting to sound like I used to—bright, positive, and excited for the future. Each day of that long, emotionally draining weekend, heading into the DG room felt like a respite. It felt like the first step of finding my way back to myself. On bid night, I cried when I opened my bid card, hugging girls who I had never spoken to yet feeling like I had known them my whole life.
During the remainder of my freshman year, I threw myself into the chapter. I made incredible connections with women whom I seemingly had nothing in common with and would have never met otherwise. I learned what it felt like to be a part of something that united a hugely diverse population. I loved the sense of sisterhood and the way it made this enormous school feel more manageable. The welcome I received as a new member was unbelievable. I would pass people on the walk to class who I didn’t know; they would smile and wave, stop for a minute on their busy commute to talk with me, and tell me how excited they were that I was a DG now. During Big/Little week, my family trekked to my dorm—all the way on the East end of campus—to decorate my room. They left me baked goods and notes that were so incredible that when I FaceTimed my dad to show him, he felt they should be nationally recognized for their outstanding job.
Over the summer when I found out that the Vice President of Foundation position would be open when we returned to school, I decided to run for it. I didn’t have extensive leadership experience, and as a lower classman, I didn’t know as many people in the chapter as other women may have. But, I didn’t care. Delta Gamma had already given me so much that any opportunity to give back somehow felt like a no-brainer. I was so nervous while I was giving my speech that I had to restart, because the thirty-second blurb I had written and memorized vanished from my brain the second I stood up. Thankfully, I recovered, finished the speech, and was lucky enough to be elected.
Since then, I have been working with an amazing team of directors to plan service opportunities and fundraising events for our chapter. This experience has been invaluable and has taught me how to interact with professionals from different career paths, as well as my peers, in order to achieve a common goal. This role has been an incredibly relevant work experience for me, seeing as I hope to go into event planning in the future.
That is one of the most amazing things about being in a sorority. While you get to make lifelong friends and memories, it also provides an amazing platform for your future, regardless of your interests. It gives you a network of brilliant, future boss ladies to connect with and provides the opportunity to experiment in different leadership roles in various fields.
Being a sister of Delta Gamma has already changed my life for the better. I found DG at a moment in my life that I had never imagined reaching, and it gave me a way to get back to the version of myself that I had lost. But, Delta Gamma has done even more than that. It has provided a support system and the space for me to challenge myself and become a stronger, more confident person than I had ever dreamt possible. For that, I will be forever grateful to this truly incredible organization.
~ Sam Fier